In 2017, I was at my own personal "rock bottom". Living separately from my husband, regular panic attacks, crushing feelings of guilt and worst of all - a social worker had sent me to attend a support programme for my local women's aid service. This wasn't what my life was supposed to be like!
As I sat waiting for that first meeting to start, I knew one thing for sure - what had happened to me hadn't been that bad. They'd all see that my problems were insignificant and 100% my fault. (Spoiler alert - I was very wrong about that!)
By the end of that meeting, I'd learned a deep new truth - life doesn't have to be a series of painful events strung together by coping strategies. I could turn my life into something magical... I just didn't have a clue how!
So I kept coming back to the Freedom Programme, and learned about my relationships. I kept going to therapy and learned about my anxiety. I took my meds. And after a loving nudge from one of my dearest friends, I found a coach.
She was a warm, wise and unflappable woman. I could tell her all my secret "bad thoughts" and she didn't bat an eyelid. She taught me more about how I could live fully and embrace my whole self - quirks and all - in 12 weeks than I had learned in the 30 years before that.
So the obvious thing to do was share the tools she'd used with me with everyone I met, right? "OOH I learned something in coaching that will help here..." pretty much became my catchphrase in women's aid meetings. At the end of my time there, I knew what I needed to do - train as a coach and come back and share the magic of coaching with the women and non-binary people of my world.
"I often think of 'then' and 'now' and I'm so grateful for the changes. I know I worked hard to get myself out of that situation and with the coaching support I've started a wonderful new business... I will continue to build community and bring people together through creativity."
Along my journey to becoming a coach, I found wonderful people who were just like me. People with their own pain, heartbreaks and trauma. People who were settling for survival mode because that sometimes seems like the safer alternative to trying to make changes (and risking failing). People with the most incredible potential to change their world, whether that's for themselves, for others or for the whole damn planet.
So here's my master plan. The two reasons I get out of bed every morning.
I’m creating a world where all relationships have a foundation of love, respect and honest communication
I want to support incredible people like you to stop accepting survival mode as the "norm" and SHINE
Imagine what your life would be like if you lived on your own terms - following your own rules - not how your experiences taught you to behave. What could you do if you knew you can stand your ground, navigate conflict AND stay open to love, joy, growth, excitement and change? You can be completely, totally you and feel incredible as the people around you respond to that with love, acceptance and celebration. You can nurture the people you love without falling into exhausted slumps at the end of every day. You can turn down the volume on your inner critic and grow powerful, positive beliefs about who you are.
Because that thing that you know needs to change - the thing blocking your path to joy - can be navigated together. There are ways around it or through it. I’ve been there, and I know how to support you through the journey. I can even help you find lightness and fun along the way too. It won’t always be comfortable, but it will be so worth it.
I’m not going to pretend and say that every day will be utter bliss - you'll still have the odd bad days and bad moods. Life is messy, unpredictable and wonderfully weird. But when those hard times hit, you'll be secure in the knowledge that you have a toolkit full of strategies to live a remarkable life. You'll be a pro at spotting your unhelpful habits and making choices to act differently. You'll put boundaries in place with love (and stick to them!) You'll have a network of people who see the real you and love you, exactly as you are.
If that sounds tempting - hit the big pink button!